It is almost impossible to ever truly know a person. There are so many sides to each of us that it can take a lifetime just to see most of them, and to understand how they came to be. Friends we have known for over 20 years, sometimes still surprise us.
Everyone has lived a life full of experiences, some good and some bad, which have made them who they are today. And who they are right now will be different from the person they are tomorrow, and years from now, because life will shape them into new and different forms.
We all know this, but despite that we still focus on a single part of a person to make our judgments about them. For example, how many times have you or someone you know measured someone’s worth by how much money that person has?
You Are Not Your Bank Balance
Having money is a nice thing. Driving a new car, wearing the most fashionable clothes, or living in a big house in a fancy neighbourhood are things we aspire too.
However, they are not all that a person is. And they shouldn’t be used as a way to judge what that person is worth.
Why not, though? After all, money is a simple number, and that number makes things easy. But money is misleading. Someone can dedicate themselves, work hard and sacrifice a lot, but still not earn a good salary after all his or her hard work.
On the other hand, someone can inherit money they never worked for, or succeed because of their personal connections rather than through hard work and persistence. If someone makes lot of money through corrupt means, do they become a better person now that they have a lot of money?
How Should You Judge Yourself?
Do not use money a means to measure yourself. Instead, ask what qualities you possess as a person. For example, are you kind? Are you willing to help your friends and neighbours? Are you willing to work hard, and to go after the things you want in your life? When things go wrong, do you accept responsibility?
Someone who answers yes to all of those questions has qualities that are worthwhile, and which go beyond money.
Money is a thing that a person has, whereas these qualities, like being hard-working, driven, and willing to accept responsibility, are what a person is.
When it comes time to judge anyone, it’s more important to judge based on who someone is, and what that person does, than how much money that person happens to have.