“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” Leo Buscaglia
VICKY: I like your dress, it’s really nice.
AMANDA: Yeah? I’m not sure the colour suits me.
VICKY: It’s really nice.
AMANDA: Really? You think so? I was thinking of giving it away, I guess I’ll keep it now.
When we compliment someone we are praising them or are trying to be nice, consequently we would like them to acknowledge and accept the compliment. A genuine smile and a thank you is all that is required in return to a compliment.
When we have done a fantastic job and we are complimented on it, we downplay our work. “I should have completed the report in a shorter timeframe.” “I think I should have delved a bit deeper for my analysis.”
Sometimes even when we are dressed to kill and we know we are looking a million dollars, we find it hard to accept a compliment on how good we are looking. “I wasn’t really sure whether I should wear this outfit.”
As we don’t want to appear too sure of ourselves, or worse still, arrogant, we don’t always acknowledge the compliment paid to us.
Sometimes we acknowledge the compliment, but downplay it. “Your presentation was better than mine.”
We want to be modest, so when we receive a compliment we hastily compliment the other person on the first thing that we can think off. Compliments should be sincere otherwise they are of no value. We know when someone is not being genuine.
A genuine compliment is a gift; a heartfelt gift which should not be tossed aside like cheap flattery. Accept all compliments with a sincere smile and a thank you.
“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain