We are all capable of achieving a lot. Deep down most of us believe we can achieve great things, but also deep down we also think we are not good enough or worthy enough for an abundance of success.
We set ourselves low expectations and targets, that way we do not fail.
We think about all the difficulties we will face, the time and money we will have to invest. We know all the pitfalls we could possibly face.
We think and worry about it so much that in the end we do nothing.
We tell ourselves we do not have the business knowledge to open our own coffee shop, nursery or catering business. We spend so much time worrying about what will happen if it doesn’t work out.
We already feel our life is a bit of a failure; after all should we not already have the management job, shouldn’t we already have a degree, shouldn’t we already have our own business, live in a better neighbourhood or be happily married.
We do not try to achieve more for ourselves because we already feel like a failure and we do not want to draw even more attention to another failure in our life, if it does not work out.
At lot of the time we believe our lack of achievement is due or partial due to past interaction with figures of authority. Our parents are usually identified as the main culprits.
Amongst other things we blame them for not encouraging us to be entrepreneurial, for not driving home the importance of education more strongly.
We blame them not instilling the right work ethic in us, for not encouraging us to develop our creative side etc etc.
Our parents, teachers and other figures of authority who shape our lives when we are young, do affect how we see ourselves and our current position in life.
However once we realise that they have contributed to our issues of low self esteem and lack of confidence then it becomes our responsibility to make the necessary changes in our lives.
In life we are all going to get kicked down from time to time.
However if we make no real efforts to pick ourselves up and get going we cannot blame anyone for our lack of achievement.
No one is saying this is easy, if it were, there would not be so many self-help books, magazines and programmes telling us how to be happier, richer and to achieve our goals.
Staying down is not easy, as it leaves us insecure, unhappy and unfulfilled. Taking steps to change the way you think is not easy either, but is the better of the two options, as it will lead you to happier future.